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Are you in a relationship with your customers?
August 18, 2009 | 3 Comments
To answer ‘YES!’ to this question is probably desirable for most organisations. Whenever I make a statement I start thinking okay whom does this not apply? At first I think don’t be ridiculous everyone wants a relationship with their customers…but they say actions speak louder than words.
Then I think about organisations and companies that I am a customer of and realise – maybe not!
I do not consider customer service as a way of engaging me in a relationship. I expect it as part of the service for me spending my hard-earned money with them. I guess our expectations have changed over time. So how do I measure whether I have a relationship with an organisation?
For this I considered what I think are the fundamental elements of a relationship and came up with this list.
1. Communication
2. Trust
3. Honesty
4. Respect
5. Caring
6. Mutual Interest
7. Loyalty
Wow what a list to fulfil! So how can an organisation develop relationships? This is especially challenging if you have a couple of thousand to millions of customers. I am going to share my thoughts on each element here
Communication
Collins defines communication as the exchange of information, ideas, or feelings. Exchange is two way. This does not necessarily mean that both parties need to talk to each other. It can mean that when one talks the other listens. Understanding is a requirement of communication. The next level is talking to each other, which leads to conversing. So are you listening to your customers and are they listening to you. Are you lucky enough to be engaging in conversation with your customers?
Trust
One of my favourite words! I question what trust is in my article do we really trust brands. Trust is something that is very human and often eludes organisations that try to mimic relationships and do not live their promises and statements. People are often perceptive to fakeness. Are you dependable and reliable? Do you deliver on your promises?
Honesty
Are you transparent with your customers? Do you admit to mistakes and fix them at no cost to the customer. Are you honest when you sell a product?
I have seen organisations who bamboozle with BS. They make whatever they are offering seem complicated and appear as experts when in fact it is just fancy talk with no substance.
Respect
Are you respecting your customer’s wishes? Are you bombarding them with communications they don’t want? It is important to respect your customer’s rights to privacy and choice. It is also important to respect your customer’s feelings. If they are angry about a dealing with your organisation, respect their feelings and then work towards a solution to resolve their source of anger. Yes, sometimes customers are unreasonable and you can only go so far and yes, not all customers are worth keeping – that is a different topic altogether.
Caring
How do you care about your customers? This could be achieved through your social responsibility drives or through rewarding loyalty with a no conditions gift or gesture. I am distrustful of conditional rewards. I personally feel it is just a manipulative way to get me to buy more…I will probably get a lot of ‘flak’ for that view. I am not saying conditional campaigns don’t work, just I don’t like them and will only use one if I was going to buy anyway.
Mutual Interest
Both parties need to be gaining from a relationship. They need to share at least one common interest. If that is not there the relationship is probably doomed. There is no point engaging with people who have no need or desire for your products or services. This is where targeting is an important element to having customers where you both can benefit through you making a profit and them fulfilling a need. It is also important from a spend point of view. Don’t waste money on one-sided, casual relationships that won’t last long anyway.
Loyalty
Another element that many brands work hard to achieve, measure and grow. Today’s customers are fickle and loyalty is hard earned. Loyalty is not something that a casual relationship enjoys but rather earned through actions resulting from the other elements of a relationship.
We can see that all the elements of a relationship are interdependent. So considering this list, I once again ask whether you are in a relationship with your customers.
I would like to hear views on how you define a relationship, whether you believe you have a relationship with your customers and how you achieve this.
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3 Comments so far


Thanks for the compliment Mark.
A great article and really very useful to look at customer relationships this way. It makes it real! thank you for your blog also, every article is very insightful and powerful. Keep up the great work!
I agree with much of this. There are so few “selling” businesses out there that genuinely do this, yet most will claim that it is their primary customer proposition and a key differentiator from their competitors. Perhaps the only one of your fundamental elements I would change (or redefine) is caring. The real art of creating a relationship with your customers (or anyone else!) is through empathy. Having a genuine understanding of what it is like to be your customer, to see the world through their eyes. This is the foundation of trust. When someone sees the world from your perspective, you’re more likely to take their advice because you believe it is good for you. A nice place to be for any one; Let alone a seller and their customer.